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poutyowl: i am perfectly fine with having other people sit on my lap but i can’t sit on other...

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 23:53:03 -0400

i am perfectly fine with having other people sit on my lap but i can’t sit on other people’s laps because i’m always paranoid that i’d crush them and they’d diE

orphan black fun fact: drew and millie davis (oscar and gemma...

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 20:54:44 -0400

orphan black fun fact: drew and millie davis (oscar and gemma hendrix, respectively) are real-life siblings (and real-life cuties)

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Tue, 18 Jun 2013 19:48:52 -0400

ampoehler: “love yourself. first and foremost. when you learn...

Sun, 16 Jun 2013 22:44:13 -0400

ampoehler:

_{“love yourself. first and foremost. when you learn that sexy is a state of mind, the rest falls into place.”}

_{“equality 101 should be a mandatory class in kindergarten.
#compassionclasses#illsayitagain#duh”}

_{a celebration of mia swier: ladies supporting ladies}

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Sun, 16 Jun 2013 19:12:22 -0400

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Sun, 16 Jun 2013 14:24:29 -0400

littledust replied to your post: bee tee dubs, all y’all who don’t have fathers can… did...

Sun, 16 Jun 2013 13:12:30 -0400

littledust replied to your post: bee tee dubs, all y’all who don’t have fathers can…

did you see lmm’s father’s day message on his twitter? :)

ahappycow replied to your post: bee tee dubs, all y’all who don’t have fathers can…

DID YOU SEE LMM’S TWEET ABOUT IT I TEARED UP

you are such a good egg, i swear to god

bee tee dubs, all y’all who don’t have fathers can come hang out over here today;...

Sun, 16 Jun 2013 10:39:24 -0400

bee tee dubs, all y’all who don’t have fathers can come hang out over here today; we’ll have our own tea party and talk about what fully-functional whole people we are, IT’LL BE AWESOME :D?

also, while i’m addressing arguments that went down on my text posts while i was away: i am...

Sat, 15 Jun 2013 20:47:00 -0400

also, while i’m addressing arguments that went down on my text posts while i was away:

i am generally really, really uncomfortable with people immediately taking real-life events to first and foremost use as fodder in the narratives of their favorite fictional characters, especially when said real-life events have massive impact on, you know, the lives of real people.

not to say it isn’t an interesting discussion to have! but, like, cool it for a second.

dr-cormier: cranberryloops: autoluminescence: wait, are people really romanticizing delphine’s...

Sat, 15 Jun 2013 20:42:42 -0400

dr-cormier:

cranberryloops:

autoluminescence:

wait, are people really romanticizing delphine’s recitation of cosima’s id number?

a moment when cosima visibly feels herself being reduced to a coded object, in an entire storyline(/ENTIRE SHOW) about women struggling to retain their bodily autonomy and right to self-determination amid patriarchal structures that attempt to reduce them to ‘beautiful forms’ unworthy of choice

directly followed by the devastating reveal that they have been legally identified as objects and property

people are romanticizing this?

Well, yes. Are you surprised?

Because Delphine was obviously romanticizing it. She said it almost like a pet name, and the moment, that smile is so gloriously messed up you can’t help but be drawn to it.

It’s exactly the conflict of the show, as embodied by Cosima. It’s always, always boils down to independence/being in control vs. being loved. You can’t help but be moved by Cosima’s need to both be loved for who she is and her rage and pain as being nothing but property. In light of that, seeing the object of her affection, her monitor, her partner in scientific pursuit using the code she was given as a nickname, as nothing but but somewhat of an endearment is heartbreaking.

What I heard, when Delphine was saying ‘324b21’ is ‘my clone’. It’s so fucking twisted I can’t deal with it. It’s romantic, if you find objectification romantic, if you find the whole “you’re my special lab rat and I will cherish you!” romantic. Which a lot of people do, pop culture is full of idolization of unhealthy, borderline abusive relationships.

The question is, would it read more clearly were Delphine a guy? Just imagine we had a male physicality combined with that careless, self-centred, privileged and controlling behaviour. Would we then see the flaws for what they are?

I think people are missing the point of this scene. Delphine is all proud about knowing Cosima’s number because yes, there is an aspect of ‘you are mine, I know you’ and in ways, it does reduce Cosima to an object. But then Cosima is like, ‘oh, so I’m just experiment 324B21, great’ and Delphine’s all, ‘… oh, wait, that’s not actually something to be proud of, the fact that I’m kind of asserting my ownership of you as an object’, and that is why a moment later, she APOLOGIZES TO COSIMA.

But I think it’s worth pointing out that when Delphine says she knows Cosima’s tag number, Cosima seems surprised/pleased by it, with her little “You do?” Because who doesn’t want to think that they’re important to someone they care about? For a quick second, it’s not about the number, it’s not about being an object, it’s about how Cosima was important to Delphine, in some way. And then that passes and Cosima is justifiably upset about being reduced to a number/object. Which, like I said, Delphine recognizes and understands, and that’s why she apologizes.

So the scene is romantic, in that we are shown how Delphine understands Cosima’s feelings — she acknowledges that they’re valid, she respects them, she apologizes for her mistakes and works to correct them. Not because she HAS to, but because she cares about Cosima and knows that she’s in the wrong. How is that not romantic?

I mean, I don’t think it matters if Delphine is a guy or a girl, really. If Delphine didn’t apologize, then it would be bad. But Delphine did apologize, and she recognized that what she said was problematic and why. If Delphine was a guy and acted in the same way, there’d be no issue with the scene.

Now, I think if people romanticize the scene SOLELY as ‘omg Cosima is ~hers’ then yes, that’s not a good thing. But I think, from what I’ve seen, people are romanticizing the aspect of Delphine respecting Cosima’s feelings, which was basically what 110 was all about (in regards to their romantic subplot arc).

(ETA: Also, at the end of the episode, Delphine is clearly devastated to realize she has played a role in contributing to the clones’ objectification as property, so.)

ok, i … really, really disagree with this, and i think this kind of reasoning is perfectly emblematic of all the things in the cosima/delphine fandom that make me so uncomfortable.

basically, “So the scene is romantic, in that we are shown how Delphine understands Cosima’s feelings — she acknowledges that they’re valid, she respects them, she apologizes for her mistakes and works to correct them. Not because she HAS to, but because she cares about Cosima and knows that she’s in the wrong” is saying that there would be no reason for delphine to apologize - as perfunctory a little ‘i’m sorry’ as it is - were it not that cosima’s feelings were hurt. she doesn’t HAVE to apologize because, what, literally objectifying your purported love interest isn’t inherently wrong?

and, yeah, apologizing for screwing up at that level isn’t inherently romantic. it is, at best, a return to baseline; given the wider context of the scene, it’s another stone in the avalanche of ripped autonomy and destroyed bodily integrity (especially for cosima, whose body is literally being destroyed through her illnesses) that makes up the episode.

US SUPREME COURT RULES THAT HUMAN GENES CANNOT BE PATENTED!!!!!

Thu, 13 Jun 2013 12:34:57 -0400

US SUPREME COURT RULES THAT HUMAN GENES CANNOT BE PATENTED!!!!!

Update: the Fields Medalist is also apparently my fourth cousin. Update 2: the Fields Medalist sat...

Sun, 09 Jun 2013 17:42:20 -0400

Update: the Fields Medalist is also apparently my fourth cousin.

Update 2: the Fields Medalist sat quietly in the rental car from hell that randomly switches to manual gear as my mother and aunt cursed at each other and my drunk uncle told me that I could be a model and also look absolutely-exactly like my dead father (Harry Potter, I feel you). Also, we took a U-turn through a red light and got lost in downtown Oakland.

Update 3: the Fields Medalist is probably not going to speak to me or my family ever again.

Update 4: the Fields Medalist, however, is attractive, relatively young-ish (early 40s), and newly single. If you’re not related to me, willing to move to Zurich, and need a relationship reference, I can hook you up.

I accidentally met a Fields Medalist today while wearing a bikini.

Sat, 08 Jun 2013 19:10:00 -0400

I accidentally met a Fields Medalist today while wearing a bikini.

THIS WEEK’S MEDIA REC AUDIENCE PARTICIPATION: FEMDOM EDITION can anyone recc any good media...

Thu, 06 Jun 2013 19:35:47 -0400

THIS WEEK’S MEDIA REC AUDIENCE PARTICIPATION: FEMDOM EDITION

can anyone recc any good media with f/m or f/f (or f/f/m or f/f/f or un so weiter) pairings with explicit femdom d/s elements?

(also a plot; i am not actually just looking for porn recs [today])

movies, tv, music, books, ect - you know the drill.

QUESTION MARK?

mad moon industry showcase

Thu, 06 Jun 2013 18:35:09 -0400

mad moon industry showcase

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Wed, 05 Jun 2013 23:06:04 -0400

sceptick: Okay, let’s talk about mental illness, and helena, and alison, and “there are health...

Wed, 05 Jun 2013 19:12:31 -0400

sceptick:

Okay, let’s talk about mental illness, and helena, and alison, and “there are health concerns.”

I’ve been seeing an alarming trend in the orphan black tags since the finale of lumping all psychological disorders into one sort of homogeneous “this person is screwed up” condition, and that is, y’know, DEEPLY NOT OKAY.

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acousticaffair: I love how in Orphan Black sexuality is not an issue. It’s not even mentioned. so...

Wed, 05 Jun 2013 18:38:29 -0400

acousticaffair:

I love how in Orphan Black sexuality is not an issue. It’s not even mentioned.

so i’ve seen this on my dash a couple of times and …. i kinda really disagree?

i love how sexuality is treated in orphan black, but not because it’s not an issue because it damn well is.

i love how felix is shown to be rightfully fearful of the police because he’s a queer sex worker who, as part of an incredibly marganilized group because of that, has probably been treated horribly by the police in the past (and was again in episode 10)

i love that there’s no wrong way to be a queer person; there are queer people who don’t realize they’re queer until middle-age (delphine) and there are queer people with (delphine/cosima) and without (felix) passing privilege and there are queer people for whom it’s a primary facet of their identity and queer people for whom it’s not AND THAT’S ALL OK AND DOESN’T MAKE ANY OF THEM ANY LESS QUEER.

i love how delphine and cosima have giant issues with their relationship, none of which have to do with its queerness - but that the fact that it is a queer relationship is an important factor not to be erased

i love how full and rich all of the queer characters are

but i hate people attempting to push their queerness aside by labeling it as ‘not even an issue’ because they’re just like all the ~normal people~

because it always is, and we never are

I do not feel ashamed

Wed, 05 Jun 2013 18:13:18 -0400

I do not feel ashamed

mswyrr: acousticaffair: Happy Sad Excited Scared Serious Confused Disappointed that the...

Wed, 05 Jun 2013 14:24:33 -0400

mswyrr:

acousticaffair:

Happy

Sad

Excited

Scared

Serious

Confused

Disappointed that the woman he’s emotionally abusing doesn’t give him exactly the sex he finds hot at precisely the frequency he wants

Calling said woman frigid to the people controlling and violating her

Deciding a person is worth helping now that he’s decided she’s worth boning

Stalking and anonymously threatening a child (FOR HER OWN GOOD OF COURSE!!!)

‘I accidentally killed six people’

‘I love you’